Thursday, September 21, 2017


Listening non stop to

You tell me fuck you with the lights on
And I always answer my phone

I love this remix so much, it's proof that the LOML Diplo hears my hearts desires and is interested in fulfilling them

Ty dolla sign's verse.
*fans self*

Word on the twitter streets is that: Wiz kid is bringing him to lagos in December.
And you already know I'm putting my December calendar together.


and stopping to cry at intervals because overwhelmed.
I am literally cancelling plans to read this book because WHATTTT?
I feel like I can relate so strongly with HRC and just reading this and affirming my feeling
I know what it's like to be a certain way and people judge you because 
you might not be as expressive or unable to convey how you feel because of
preconceived notions about you.

She talks a lot about failing and the lessons of humility that come with it and I can reallllly relate with that. Really really.
Whatever the case I am intensely proud of HRC. and what happened was " She is a woman" and now now now you people have trump. hahahahahaha. 


but for some reason consistently tired and sleepy.


To pack for my next vacation.
Visa's sorted so I'm mentally trying to combine out fits
To compile a playlist for my next vacation and I'm having the time of my life just rediscovering the songs I like to travel to. 


Not checking in luggage for this trip.
Color of nail polish I should use
If I should go to Dubai for my birthday or London?
Or if I should stay in Lagos and have a house party.

Monday, September 18, 2017

List 33: List the ways that you are a leader

I think it's just one.

I organize.

Literally I show up and somehow I'm running things making sure that everyone is fine and everything is going as planned.

It is actually ridiculous. It happens at parties. Cleaning up, Volunteer work.


I just get there and sort of take charge.

It would be the best thing if I can find a way to monetize it to be honest.

But alas.

Throw back and a bit of hand running through my hair.

Do you ever think when you're all alone
All that we can be, where this thing can go?
Am I crazy or falling in love?
Is it real or just another crush?
Do you catch a breath when I look at you?
Are you holding back like the way you do?

Throw back.
This song takes me back back back to better times heart wise.

Itunu had her '00KaraokethemedParty over the weekend.

I lost my voice but I had such an amazing amazing amazing time.


I think I'm still recovering.

You know how when you know you shouldn't make poor choices but you do anyway because  fuck it?

Yeah I think that's where I am at.

I had a really really really good weekend and I think I am going to spend the rest of the month trying to decide on what it is I want from life.

I'm in a really good place because everyone keeps telling me " You are so happy", You are so free, you are living your best life and I'm like you guys my best life would me being a swimsuit model but here we are, navigating Lekki traffic daily.

Ps: I got put on a project and I'm so pleased with the out come
I kept wondering why my body hurt all over- Turns out I ran 5km on saturday morning then went to the market THEN partied till morning.

I also didn't do my nails last week so I'm literally riding these ones out to the death.

My next vacation no one is checking in luggage and I'm just like hayyy, Can I do this?

We investigate.

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Know thy self and other short stories

After an argument about my love language,

I took a quiz and turns out

The person I was arguing with was right.

Would you look at that.

Turns out my two top love languages are 1. Receiving gifts and 2. Physical Touch.

If you asked me a yesterday I would have said QT and Acts of Service.

Ah well, we live and we learn.

Still slightly shocked that the person was right.

I swear I only started giving things away as gifts because, it's hard to keep your whole life from  three bedrooms into one.

But alas.

Monday, September 11, 2017

What T told me- when I told him Lagos boys don't really want situtationships.

You know what you need to do?

You need to leave this baby boy life alone,

get you one boy focus on him and catch all the feelings.

There is too much bullshit out there.

32: List the ways you get energized

1- Sleep.
If I shower and sleep and put the AC on, the quality of my sleep is sooo good.
It's almost like magic.

So explain to me why I do not shower everynight?

2- Helping people solve their problems

This one is really weird because I'm super inconvinenced yet somehow I manage to make it work.

3-Working out
Strange supposed to be tired but somehow will find strength to do alllll the other crazy things I kinda wanna do.

4- Reading a book
Reading is one of my first loves and is my true true truest pleasure.
Every vacation I read the alchemist.
Every year it gets better- maktub.

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Booty Call, Ready and Out

From the bottom,
I spent the long weekend out.

Thursday was my girl's birthday and we went to bottles to celebrate with her.
Before that we caught up at Ikoyi club, and ended up having guinea fowl with the daddies in squash section.
Which, let me tell you- Sugar baby life will fit me DIE.
After which we ended up at 57.
Got a message from my Sugar Baby and popped in to say hey to him with my home girl.

When I called him to tell him I would be coming with my friend, he said
"Why are you bringing a body guard?"

Good times.

Friday thankfully work free was spent in bed. Recuperating. Recovering. Resting and getting ready.

My girl Uloh got into town, and went to see an art opening with her.
After which we went to get table top dancing at Velvett.
Ps: Velvett is my SPOT. I love it.
And ran into everyone in Lagos.

My boy Deji brought me sallah meat that I shared with the bouncers at the door and now we are in a committed relationship. (Velvett & I- not the bouncer).

Also DJ Crowd Kontroller at Velvett is THE VERY ONE. I love him.

Left the club on Friday and spent the night at my girls house.
Contemplated stabbing her gateman because he was acting a damn fool.

Spent the day in bed.
Then gave myself a dilke scrub rub down and general pampering
my girls came over to wardrobe co-ordinate and have lunch. we ate eba and vegetable with cow leg and cake with iced tea infused with cuban rum and some water.
Then I went back to bed

Woke up at 9 and started getting ready for my friends wedding.
Fun Fun Fun.
From the wedding went to Velvett and then to 57 after which i drove home dead tired but you know ready for the beach the next day

Church harvest at my mothers church that went on FOREVER. aka beach cancelled.
went to support my girl Steph at a thing she was doing in VI.
Good times.
Then went to a Sallah Party ( first one all holiday).
And the rice was so sweet. Jesus.
I took some meat away and I still had some meat this morning.

Fast forward to 9pm ended up at Slay doing karaoke.
fastforward further to 12 and Itunu is messaging me about drinks at Churascos.
I say no.

I get home and crawl into bed.
Ps: I did not drink a drop of alcohol ALL WEEKEND.
Not a single drop.
Ate like a pig tho, so ojoro cancel.

I stop by at my friend's - for lack of a better word- house and he has some work to catch up on.
we are talking. just catching up and he speaks about an article he wrote and he was shy to share it,
so I say oh the one we talked about and he said
"Oh we spoke about that? I thought I was just your booty call"
Me *pulls up article and reads it out loud*

When we are done catching up, I leave to sugarcane to have lunch with my home girl and her friend from work.

Cool stuff.

Fastforward to after lunch, a brief stop at my sugar baby's house and then back to ICF to have desert with Uloh before we head out to the airport to drop her off.

I tell them about the conversation. and she said " You said you are looking for king and you did not re-assure him when he said that, This is not the attitude of someone looking for a king".

My other friend chips in,
" You know, maybe you aren't ready"

And I realize that I'm never going to be one of those people whose social media is stuffed with photos and captions of king followed by really cheesy shit.

You know.

I mean, I was with Eros forever and I didn't have any of those, perhaps, I really don't have the range.

And you know what?

That's okay.

Wednesday, August 30, 2017


Listening non stop to 

I want your simple and your crazy
I'm not the type to tame it
Just when you think you are at your worst
I'm giving you my best.

This album is so sweeeet ehn. I love it.
Like its on constant repeat.

I've haven't be reading much.
because my life has been busy.
But I have made time to read alllllll the old messages I really should delete.
But yeah, I haven't be reading much.


-For my vacation at the end of the month. I can not wait
-my holiday wardrobe
-how I'm going to vanish from work for a family event at 1 ish
- How I need a driver, that someone else will pay for
- how I need to loose weight
-Outfits for the weekend


My nails
The turn out for my mother's husband's 60th birthday
I cut my hair (again) and dyed it the most beautiful shade of purple/Pink.

My gosh you guys it is beautiful. ( My hair)
My life currently.

I know this is such a shit update but you people will have to manage.
Also I love weddings.
I thought I'd hate them because of the separation from Eros,
But I actually really really like them.
I actually a calendar full for the month of October and I am dying from excitement already.

Also why are my family members trying to constantly hook me up.
From my mothers friends ( Iyama).
To my cousin who called me to tell me that her co-worker saw my photo
and wants my number.
(double Iyama).

I'm a really peculiar person so I'm very wary about being hooked up.
So I just tell them what I have discovered is the biggest cop out.
Let me pray about it.

Thats even a bigger cop out than my husband said no.

Sha sha sha.

My nails look cute. My hair is popping
My skin looks amazing

And My sugar baby called me this morning for a collaborative jam session over the phone.

Listen, it may not look/sound like it but I'm counting my blessings and right now
life is good.

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

31: List the words that define your personality

Lover girl
Love enthusiast
Lady of Leisure
Duty bound
Kind (ish)

So basically I'm the introvert/extrovert (really the word is ambivert), who hates people in her bed and cant stand wet showers but LOVES having a good time partying at velvett.

You are contradictory he said.

Friday, August 25, 2017

What are you running from?

You are guarded

You keep running

What are these walls?

Why won't you open up to me?

Me: huh?

I swear I'm like a lover girl but everyone keeps saying things that prove that I am not.

2 weeks ago my friend said to me that she would never introduce me to any of her friends because

I am a cassanova.


I was hurt. and now I have to find someone else to introduce me to the boy.

So I ask my home girl M, who was in town from Miami and she is like yah, you have walls.

Me: Word?

Even in friendships and its obvious because you are so open so when you have a wall its glaring think national red line uncrossable.

ME: hayyy.

I also ask E, who is my baby girl and trusted adviser in matters of the heart because who better to show you the way?

Sha she said yes, why are you running so much?

what are you running from?

Me: Everything.

Her: It be's like that sometimes.

Monday, August 21, 2017

list 30: The qualities you admire most in others

I'm not a very patient person and it translates to even when I am dealing with myself I want things now now now.

I'm not the most forgiving person - apparently.

The ability to not speak back ( sometimes)
I always have to say something.
Have to have the last word.

Really it goes from you are so cute to you need to cut that attitude out or I will come and fuck it out of you. smack you.

I admire modest people, I love to sing my praises by myself constantly.

I do not think there are any virtues in playing small, but that is just me.

Ps: I had such an amazing amazing amazing weekend ehn.
Pss: Do yall not drink the cocktails at weddings?

Thursday, August 17, 2017


I completed my photography class.

I am so proud of myself.

I keep looking at the photos like. Gosh.

Thank you so much Canon.

And Leke.

Thank you!

29: List your childhood and current dream job

As a child I really thought I was going to be a beauty queen a la Agbani.

Google her.

Anyway now I am masquerading as a chartered accountant while really I'm an enjoyment enthusiast.

My current dream jobs, would be to curate affordable travel plans and itineraries  for Nigerians.

Which means I get paid to travel for free and write about my experiences and tell people* why they should visit these cities.

Second job would be to be a columnist a la Carrie Bradshaw minus the shoes but for travel.

 and maybe a bit of the sex?

we will see sha, trying to make this a reality.


Friday, August 11, 2017

Articles I liked this week

Because I'm all about love and what's better than a love story between two power houses?

Love Story

Because I met Diplo in Lagos, while he was on his Africa tour,
and was most likely one of the people eating steak at COVA while he Dj-ed
Also waited in the rain for his headline performance at Gidifest


Because everyone says, you won't compromise.
This Quora question answers this perfectly.


Relationship Pro tip:  If someone has too much baggage, we’ll end up carrying a lot of it.

And finally because, aren't we all trying to hack this thing called life?
in the healthiest possible way?

Life hack

Excerpt: "but merely pointing out that
 it is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it.
There is more to it than that— no one HAS to do something he doesn’t want to do
 for the rest of his life.
But then again, if that’s what you wind up doing,
by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it.
You’ll have lots of company."

This week picked up greatly, you know, if anyone is interested in knowing.
My Travel blog *covers face* has two comments,
And I'm starting a photography class next week- No more shooting on auto!

Told you it picked up.

Wednesday, August 9, 2017


I think
Actually I know

That there is one thing I hate more than being lied to,
and it's people taking my things without my permission.

It is disrespectful AF.

And I do not do it, because I know how much it irks me.

Same way I ask people before I pick out of their plates because I know how much some people hate it.

I don't care about it but I respect people enough.

So I moved back home and my sister assumed it was perfect to just pick up where she left off stealing my things.

Latest one includes a set of 3 gold bracelets valued at 500GBP.
Now I had been managing my bracelets so that next time I'm in London,
I will go back with my receipt and sell them jejely and collect my money
because Ticket to Barbados is 500GBP

Imagine my confusion when I couldn't find them.
They are kept in one place and I didn't move them.

Anyway I went to visit my sister
and guess what I found?

My beloved bracelets in the tray where she keeps her keys.

And offcourse one was broken.

Bye bye Ticket to Barbados.

But check this, she doesn't understand why I am upset.
Apparently I am " Over reacting"

And everytime she says that word I just want to slap her across the face with a folding metal chair.

Over reacting to something I have told you repeatedly that I hate?


Just thinking about this is stressing me out.
Fast forward to this morning,
she messages me about how much she loves me and she wants me to know

And I tell her,

Stop taking my things.
If you "Love" and respect me as you claim and you really want me to know
leave my things alone.

Off course she starts talking about how it is only material and it's not enough for me to react like that.

Me: LOL.

When you are ready to love me, you know what to do.
till then I'm not interested in this conversation.

I hope she goes back to my mother and they both cry over this.

because I know that shit isn't ending.

And now I'm ready for war fare.



Tuesday, August 8, 2017

List 28: List the wildest things you want to try

- Sky Diving
I have an insane fear of heights plus I'm Nigerian so I'm very aware of the fact that 1000 people may have jumped and when its my turn the parachute won't deploy because my village people are working over time.

-Spontaneous Trips
Like a what are you doing, pack a bag lets go type trip
I'm an excel plan the trip typa girl.
There are budgets and there are correspondences and there are plans
that are flexible, but plans none the less

- Playboy Cover
I reallllllly wanna do a playboy cover I mean I'm only going to have this body now so I might as well. you know?

- Write a book
This I've always wanted to do and maybe I can get it done this year. Maybe.

Post Script
Wildest Person I want to try: The boy I liked.

Friday, August 4, 2017

Bad things and Bad people

Sometimes you need a reminder that you know circumstances are just that - Circumstances.

They aren't defining points, neither are they labels. 

They are simply circumstances.

Last night I was out with T as is our usual tradition, my sugar baby text me.

And I went out to talk with him for  a bit, in a bid to disuade him I mentioned that I was currently separated from Eros.

He said

It's a bad thing to happen, but you are not a bad person, and it is important to remember this.

Out of the mouth of Babes.

If I could weep from relief I would have.

I mean I have friends till date who made the most off hand comments and hurtful comments about this but look at this underage baby giving me clarity.


As an aside: These Young boys have all the linessss.
Like I am equal parts impressed and amused at the same time everytime we have a conversation.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017


A few things I had planned to be able to do in 2017

Run around in heels

Play the Piano

Do a full split

Start and hopefully conclude legal separation from Eros.

Today is August 2nd

Ask me where I have reached?

No where

Still not wearing heels anywhere

Still haven't started Piano classes

LOL at the full split

And very interestingly I can not even find the marriage certificate to even start the process.

I had a really interesting day yesterday

- Sorted out my last vendor payment which happened to be the wedding cake. Converted it to a cake for my mother's husbands birthday. Meh

- Found out my Amala woman has closed down. Hiss

- and off course the crushing disappointment from the realization that the thing with the boy won't work.

But on the upside: Remember when I told you how I was praying for something else asides ticket money?

My Aunt was really sick, it was going to cost a shit load of money to sort her out, but in under a month she is back home.

Walking. Talking. Eating.

Also my sugar wax girl is in Lagos from Abuja.

Pleased doesn't even cover it.

Even more exciting,

I've ordered my birthday cake already. My Birthday is in November.


Even with the left-ness of yesterday I am pretty excited about August.

I'm attempting a whole 30 no alcohol thingy thingy thing.

Will let you know how that goes.

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Update on I met a boy.

So you know the boy
that I actually developed a range for a liked to bits  liked

It's not happening.
And it's so awful how you grow up
and you realize that things won't work
no matter how much like
or potential a thing might have
or perfect vibes

I miss being young and stupid
and making those stupid decisions with my chest
But you gatta learn, you gatta grow
Ignorance is actually bliss.

So I'm thinking do I want to try this friend thing
But you know how you end up being friends with someone
and next thing
Reverse cow girl.

To thine self be true abi how do they say it?

I feel maybe I should try this celibacy thing Fr Fr.
I mean I'm already on course abi?
Let it be deliberate.

I am thankful for T,
for Thursdays and for being
the right type of asshole.

My wax girl from abuja just happens to be in lagos.
Color me dying of excitement abeg.
Body gonna be out here feeling like
the glory of God.

Monday, July 31, 2017

List 27: List the things that make you feel healthy, Mind, Body and Soul

Not in any particular order


Texting the boy I like
Solving problems
Getting a manicure
Witty conversations
Listening to Music

Working out
Yoga sometimes
Amazing amazing amazing sex. ( yes 3 Amazing's)
Spa days that consist of Hammams and Massages
Whole 30


The beach
Celebrating my friends
Shoulder kisses
Back of neck kisses
Forehead kisses

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Currently and musings.


Non stop because I'm the Queen of indulgence.

say her name na fiona
she ah very fine girl but you know that she no nice
alcohol and cigarette oh oh



Which is weird because I'm always reading. 


My mind is everywhere. So I would not finish this.
But I promise myself that I will write.

So I sent an email to the boy that I most certainly and it's blowing my mind because what the actual fuck type of stress is this,  think I like.

Trying to explain, 
that I do an immersion thing*,
that I'm quick to leave
and that I'm scared that I'd break him
and whatever the fuck this thing we have is
Like I break everything else.

Without sounding like I'm the Queen of excuses.
And eliminating more maybes?

E said- You can enjoy the juice but do not get lost in the sauce.
Me: Oh I think I already drowned.

* Sassy says I do. I do not even know what this means.

Sunday, July 23, 2017


So I met a boy.

That I *actually* like.


Lets check back in a month to see how I feel about this, cool?


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

T & E

Me: I do not know maybe I will go out on friday
E:    Well its election saturday
Me: Even better let me go and find whose house I will spend it at
E:    You know there is NO movement right? so you need to be sure you want to spend the whole day with whoever it is you wake up next to.
Me: Yeah, I'll probably just go home.
T:    Yeah you are probably not going home.

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

testimonyyyy tahmmmm.

I do not worry a lot.

Things work out a lot for me, and those that don't, I chalk them up to things that shouldn't and I when I look back I'm thankful that they didn't.

But I worry sometimes about money when I make poor choices because I run a really tight ship with my finances.

Like if I deviate or wrongly forecast, I literally have to live on N5k for a week type tight ship.

Anyway, my friends and I have been trying to go to Ghana for AGES. and these heifers are the most unreliable sme sme filled girls. So to say we haven't been able to sort it out is an understatement.

Sha on saturday I was at Yoga, and turns out a bunch of people are going to * insert African country* and I'm interested.

Then when I'm told how much it costs I'm like yeah sign me UP.

So I pay for the accommodation on the spot.

And I'm like cool, I still have money for my mechanic who came to take my car that morning.

Sha, mechanic came and it was double what I budgeted, meaning I was going to be left with maybe N800 in my checking account.

But no biggie, I had money on my E-tag and fuel in my car for the week so I'm cool.

Sunday comes and these heifers are now " Serious" about Ghana.

New dates and what not, and more expensive ticket prices.


I also check the second trip because I mean I'm already intensely emotionally and financially invested.

Rookie mistake, I do not book a ticket on hold.

So Monday morning I get to work, I check online and I book a slightly cheaper ticket that the booking expires in 3 days but I do not really care because I mean I do not have the money and I'm doing the mental maths of  the fastest way of moving money around and maybe paying or not.

And because I'm silly and ungrateful and my memory is sooo short about how all the times God has come through for me, I start telling Eneni how, OMG I'm going to have to cancel one of the trips, most likely Ghana because no money etc etc etc.

Then I get a credit alert.
From my Old employers.
Co-operative Scheme.

Which is the exact amount of money for my ticket. That I had booked 30 minutes ago.

Because I have home training and I don't have power for onigbese and I'm well behaved I look at the details of the person that paid me. Like huh?

Okay so I'm confused, I'm calling who sent me the money like- EXCUSE ME, off course no one picks up.

I panic and tell Eneni that I just got some money but it has to be a mistake, she said send an email.

I send an email like " Hey guys I got some money, whats it about?"

Turns out on Friday they had a meeting and decided to pay Dividend and since I was a member up till May of this year I was eligible for payment and that was that.

Color me amused.

By the time the decision was made to pay me, I did not even know about the trip.

When I decided to go on the trip, I did not have the money but I paid for the accommodation anyway.

I booked the ticket and I had no idea where I planned to get the money from.

In literally 30 minutes of the booking being made, I got the exact amount.

You guys, I did not even pray or anything. It did not even occur to me to pray or tell God, I have other things I'm praying for so I'm like wo, this one I can handle let me not disturb God, I'm already asking him for that other thing- PS: He also sorted that one out as well.

All I did was try to start worrying about what had already been taken care off, before I even knew I was going to have that need.

Is God not amazing?

Doesn't he really see the end from the beginning and deserve our full and ultimate trust?

Am I not crazy for worrying when EVERY SINGLE TIME, he has come through so spectacularly that I am ashamed of how silly I was and I have Nigerian politician levels of shame AKA non existent.

Hint: Yes. Yes and Yes I am obviously crazy.

Like I want to put up the conversation I was having with my friend about how I'm going to have to drop a trip and stop buying things etc etc etc.

Shaaaa once I confirmed the money was actually mine.

I called the airline, confirmed the office location, and closing time.

Left my office at 4pm and went to pay for my ticket.

And that is that.

Vacation for the second half of the year sorted.

I still can't believe it.

Honestly if you want good things to happen to you, maybe you should hitch your self to my star because even me I can't explain it.

And this is why I really really really think my life's work has something to do with travel and travel finance, and why I keep at writing my Travel blog because I truly think they are linked but I'm still trying to work it out.
Plus there are only so many throwback posts I can give the gram before my bad belle followers block me.

Because, this is such a massive thing for me, I got home and told my mum.

She was like- God really likes you sha.

I told her- You think???

So that's the second travel testimony this year and we are just in July.

Dear God,

You know how we spoke about Asia being 2018 travel. Come through for your daughter.
Since you clearly have the hands and you are in the business of showing off in my life.

So I'm thinking the Thailand Yacht week* to ring in 2018 because you guysss I finalllly turn 30!

Then two weeks in May doing the big 4 Asian countries,

And if you have been reading this blog you already know how excited I have been about turning 30.

I really think I will enter my final form of fabulousness

Although people who know me say I am well on the way.

So that is the testimony.

God provided before the need physically manifested in my life.

 Also I'm thinking of trying out this fly without checking in luggage life.

So if anyone has tips come through for your girl abeg.

* I think it is cancelled now sha.

Ps: If anyone has been to Asia with a Nigerian passport tell me how you hacked it.
Pss: What Asian cities should I see?
Psss: Every trip is probably 2 weeks/10 working days.

List 26: List the things you would change in your life right now if you could


- My commute to work

-The fact that Eneni doesn't want to have a birthday party

-  The fact that I over sleep the next morning when I shower in the night ( and this is absolutely ridiculous)

- The fact that I'm not the Virgina black's ambassador for the West African market. please someone should talk to Drake for me.

Friday, July 14, 2017


LOL relax.

The Wale X Usher Song

Its like any growth, you can't be ready for it
Because its growth , It's gonna be new
you are going to have a new life
you are going to be a new person.

Baby I've been making plans 

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

List 25. List the things that make you feel powerful

This is so random because only last week someone said to me, you like to feel like super woman.

LOL - I need to get back into the gym.

I think I feel the most powerful when I win/get what I want.

It's awful but true.

also when I am able to get my body to do what needs to be done sometimes at the gym, or on the Yoga mat.

Finally when I react just exactly how I decided to response irrespective of how I feel like responding.
I feel so good when that happens.

Like I love it so much.

When I'm like girl you already decided you weren't going to flip, and I do not flip.

Perfect and Powerful.

Monday, July 10, 2017



non stop to as I am wont to do.

I know I know yet another spanish song.
In my real life, I'm going to marry a spanish billionaire because
in the words of JayZ, whats better than one billionaire? Two.

Y se formó la gozadera, Miami me lo confirmo
Y el arroz con habichuela, Puerto Rico me lo regaló

My spanish is getting better btw.


or just concluded reading this book.
Everything I needed to read/here in a flooded in weekend.

As you all know I am on a path to find my emotional range and I'm doing a lot of reading re: self awareness and this is such a good book.
Really important quote " You do not have to explain your love, You do not have to justify your love, You just need to practice your love.

Started a bout of self love my appreciating my body with sun salutations yesterday morning, fixing my hair and going to see the works of someone who said my features were very striking and he wanted to paint me. Old me would  have been like *side eye*, current me is like - wa wa wa thoughts. LOL.

Anyway its a really really solid book. 


-Kind to my body. I've had three surgeries and my body has housed my soul through recuperation and I'm done trying to get it into something else. My body is gonna be the body it is.

- Forgiving to the people who offended me. This is difficult because I used to be petty AF. But over the weekend, I took a step to forgive someone and I was really pleased. Still upset but glad.

-Late to work because rain came and washed away all the roads in Lagos.

- Truthful to myself and others by no longer telling lies that I do not need to tell. but especially to myself


For my favorite earrings. This loss of jewelry is so stressful for me because I never used to lose shit now I can't find anything.

Forward to this weekend, I have a yoga class and a wedding and I'm thinking maybe drinks and dinner.

Back at the delicious weekend I had. Asides being flooded in, I finally sorted out something that I have been stressing myself over. So pleased. I also took my new rings for a spin. Super pleased.

For people to do my get away with. Still silence.


-What someone who I met said to me, "I'm worried. You have so much depth", meant.
for whatever it is worth I'm sure it was a compliment.

- If this statement is true " Just because you are not winning, doesn't mean you are loosing"


That statement is true because its the window with which I plan to look at my supposed 6 month celibacy plan that turned into a short lived 3 week run.

Short lived is even being ambitious. but IDC IDC.


My life to the fullest.

Friday, July 7, 2017

Cougar du jour

Spent today in bed, I had exposed myself to the elements on Thursday and I just took today out rest and recoup.

My mum came in and said when she saw my car on a Friday night, then she knew I was really sick.

Imagine that?

Last night I was at bogobiri with T as is now our Thursday tradition ( till he runs away to America), and I met yet another 25 year old.

T shakes him and says, I prefer the one from last week.

I am about to die of laughter.

Why do you get to have a pissing contest with my baby boy's ? I ask.

Because It is always a pissing contest he replies.

I met an artist on Wednesday who has an exhibition I want to go and see after church on Sunday,

If anyone is interested please let me know so we can make plans to go together. My contact me page/link thingy has my email.

I'm finding my foray into art very very very interesting, It's almost like I stepped in and now EVERY door is opening to me.

I love that it is a really different laid back vibe from what I am used to in my actual job.

Also someone said they cant decipher what I do for a living from my Instagram account. Strange I swore IG had a different purpose but I guess I'm playing myself.

If anyone cares I'm in PR. LOL

That's what everyone thinks I do anyway so. :)

My former co-worker is getting married tomorrow and I honestly do not want to go.

Like I so don't want to go ehn, but I am going to go because it has already been decided by me and I think it would mean a lot to the bride if I show up.

Today is Eros's birthday.

And no I did not send him any present or message or olive branch because what is dead may never die but rise again stronger and oh look its 9 days to season 7 even though I don't watch GOT.

Still waiting on the final book sha.

I need to be really really really careful what I think/wish It always seems to come to pass.

I'm ready to become a super model and travel the world for free and run on beaches half naked and walk in fashion shows and write columns in magazines about my life in my spare time.

Dear Universe, my skin is clear enough for this now, over to you.

Speaking of travelling the world, I had planned to do more Nigeria travel but why does no one want to follow me?

I'm about to get myself a chunk of expat boyfriends to face this my travel dreams with because You nigerians aint shit ahn ahn.

Travel plans include IITA, Kaduna and Abraka.

You know just incase anyone is interested they are pretty much friday to sunday plan trips, pocket friendly and I'm celibate so I won't jump you. ( you can relax)

The only thing I ask, pay your way and take fire photos of me okay?

M thinks my life is very interesting.

Asides my self imposed sex drought, I am inclined to agree.

Wednesday, July 5, 2017


I think my boss is inappropriate.

Which isn't unusual. This is Nigeria.

But inappropriate in that he is giving me marital advice and we are not close like that.

Today in a group of people he said if I married you I would be flogging you in the house.

Interestingly enough I wasn't livid.

Just slightly amused because I'm never going to marry you what is the point.

And it dawned on me that I really really really might not get the range back.

Took a trip to clear my mind and now I'm even more lost with a shorter fuse than I can survive with.

But it means I'm not giving myself a headache over hypothetical situations that are never ever ever going to come to pass.

My favorite past time used to include doing that, building situational castles in the sky, but I learnt quickly that what you think is what you get so, I switched those thoughts up positive real quick.

And now life is good.

Sunday by the pool at Intercontinental with T,

T "So the boy from thursday"
Me: OMG he is 24444!
T: and?
Me: I don't know if sugar mummy is something I want to dabble in
T: He is going to be really smooth, if that he him at 24, his game is only going to get stronger
Me: Yeah definitely. but not for me
T: Gabrielle Union swears differently

*swats him*

My old friends have started throwing shade about T and I, which is really interesting because they couldn't be farther from what it is.

Same way my friend in Miami thought Yorubae was my boyfriend.

Interesting thing I've noticed is that everyone has started asking me if I am dating?
It's weird because I'm not.

Inappropriate boss was telling me today how he wishes he was 35 and could do life over again. Said he got jilted at 26 and carried it with him forever so he went on a sleeping around spree and then just couldn't stop and got married but still wishes he stopped to get to know people.

And it occurred to me that is why I was becoming celibate.

IssaRaunchySexRabbitLifestyle was becoming a tad too comfortable for me and not like it's a bad life (seeing as I enjoy(ed),- hopefully, it thoroughly), It always ends with people who aren't me getting hurt and that is not who I am ( okay maybe it is but I'm trying to be better).

And also because I was reading my journal and I remembered that someone told me that I break everything I come in contact with ( Fake news by the way, I'm a total healer).

I'm swearing off casual sex till I find the range to actually enter into a committed lets see what we are doing anyway type thing.

I also harbor this really strange fear where I'm not going to be able to pick someone because- who keeps bringing more I've had too many type thing.

And It's really strange because - How can I be afraid that I won't be able to chose someone, when I know a problem most people have is literally the opposite?

But you know what?

Problems are problems.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017


While I am totally thankful that I can afford to live the life I am living currently,

I absolutely hate the fact that I have choices to make and they are stressing me out.

1- To get a new passport OR to pay for 40 yoga classes at 40k. for 3 months which is honestly  A STEAL. ( i.e 1k a class in LEKKI, hello Unicorn?!)
I also need a new passport because

2- To invest some money or pay for my ikoyi club membership.

3- Find people to come to kajuru with my girls and I. Stress. esp as I do not know if I would be out of town for work.

Weirdly number 1 is the most stressful one for me because its such little money but because I run such a tight ship with my money I'm just like urgh. urgh. urgh.

List 24: List your quirks

Ah this.

I have like a really really really evil laugh. Think Cruella de-vil meets Ursula (Both Disney villains)

Like my real laugh not my I-think-you-are-cute-so-I'm-coy-and-giggling-laugh.

I snort when it's really really funny.

I complete people's sentences. ( However this is something I think I am trying to stop).

I'm likeable? Really likeable and very persuasive.

Monday, July 3, 2017

Banana fall on you

Last night something interesting happened.

A few things actually.

1- Someone stole our bottle of Hennessy at the club.

Lagos is too much for me.

2- I ran into someone who I hadn't seen in maybe 5 years and when he asked me if I was single, had a boyfriend seeing anyone, I casually said " Yeah I'm separated from my husband".

And he just said, lets have lunch some time, I let you get away before, I won't make that mistake again.


Ps: If you read this blog you know about the boy who wanted to take me to Paris for the weekend but I was in a "relationship". Yeah It's him, he moved back to Lagos last year.

3- I am actually really skinny now.  I saw a photo of myself on my friends snap chat and I'm like WHAT?

I'm so tiny. I need to eat like a goat abeg.

Friday, June 30, 2017

So. Cougar alert and other stories

Cougar alert.

Why did I go out with T last night and meet this 24 year old who wants to give me his heart?


I mean like he said to me while holding my hand clasped in both of his, " I like you, I like you a lot and I think I want to give my heart to you, but I want to be logical about it"

Me: Thank you ( I guess)

Me: I am also 32 so yeah

Him: I've always liked older women

Me: No you just like me. not older women.

Him: You are right, I like you.

Now this wont have been a problem at allllllllll except you know how I said he is 24, turns out he went to school ( like shared a room- went to school) with Eros's younger, younger younger brother.

So I mention that oh I happen to know his room mate and he says oh " That's strange, how come he never introduced me to you, I usually meet most of his friends"

" well, I won't say we were exactly friends"

" Were you people having sex"

" Oh God no, but the nature of our relationship doesn't matter now"

"Doesn't matter how?"

"Like it is irrelevant".

"Okay, I'm going to let it rest and we would come back to it".

We would?


So I mean this is getting major awkward because- wth?

And because really I'm the worst person to get tangled with right now, and because who the hell gets involved with someone 8 years younger- Actually the Macrons and WadeUnion begs to differ.

It just seems so interesting.

Also there is another very very very very interesting angle to this shit I can't blog about but trust me.

Someone would end up crying and it won't be me.

"Disclaimer received loud and clear"

My creative said, " I hate and envy how easy it is for you to get boys to like you".

me "It's my winning personality shining through".

Other stories.

I know someone who I used to be in a fitness group with. Won't say we are friends, we are cordial enough as you can be in a fitness group with over 30 women.
Group dissolves.

Last year, I move back home. raw as hell. and I start hearing from people that this "someone" has been asking everyone, why she is seeing me in traffic. since she knows I live in VI.

Not one person

Not two people.

And then those ones came to ask me if I was okay, which I was for the most part.

But it was the most intrusive thing ever because if you want to know so badly, why do you not ask me? why are you going around asking people who aren't me?

But okay no problem.

I told myself I would make sure this shit didn't make me hard, or bitter or spiteful towards anyone, So it didn't matter what I heard, or what XYZ said, I just told myself I won't be a bitch I would be gracious to everyone consistently irrespective of how I felt.

So I ignored this.

Today "Someone" messages me talking about I look so good
me: I KNOW. :)

Her: Please you seem to have the secret to this weight loss thing down. I just saw the photo you posted on IG. Tell me what you did.


So I'm thinking I'm not the only person you must know who has lost weight, people loose weight all the time. And you can come to me for information about this, but you "heard" *I* moved back home and you thought to ask *everyone* else but me who had the information about it.

But I said- I'm trying to remain soft but this whole thing is really pissing me off.

Sunday night I'm out, I run into one of Ero's friends who wants to talk to me.

Me: Okay, I'm listening

Then he goes off on a tangent about how he can not believe I let things get to this point and he is disappointed in me.

Me: You are disappointed in me?


So I just said okay nice chatting with you and entered my car.

I mean I could have read him and told him what he really wanted to hear but to what end?

I love Amebo as much as the next person but I guess this has really taught me to just be sensitive to the fact that the gist is actually someone else's reality and it wont hurt to measure your words before you open your mouth.

Ps: I have left said someone on read. for now. I'm probably going to answer her sha.
Because I'm a softie at heart.

Pss: I did take my 24 year old's number before he started declaring his serious like for me, but but I think it is best if I do not even use it, although I did say I will invite him to my next get away.

And my next get away finna be LITTY.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

List 23: List all the things that make you laugh

- Funny books

- Being Savage in traffic

- Having conversations over meals with my friends

-Random compliments

-The moment when people realize my actual greatness ( there is always that moment)

- Me being calm when everyone is going crazy.

- Me going crazy when everyone is being calm.

Honestly, everything just cracks me up. I'm one of those "Everything is a joke to you" people.

Friday, June 23, 2017



If this 6 month celibacy challenge is going to be the death of me.
Probably not
But knowing how these things work, Its going to be raining dick.
Always excited to try out how much self restraint plus my body really needs me celibate now


non stop to this and thinking should I try 3months instead? LOL JK

You should feel it, meet and greet it
I would be a genius if I didn't think with my penis


-About the madness this weekend is about to be.
A Madness.

- About the boy I met at my boy's house last night who looked at me and said, " You are interesting, but not interesting like I want to figure you out, because I think I might lose my mind, but interesting in like I want to draw from you.

I hear all sorts but you guys I was like 


No for real.
What is in this lagos water? I did not give him my number sha. No power.

-About how the reason I stopped snapchatting is going to be the same reason I stop using Instastories.

I mistakenly, And I say mistakenly- because I keep forgetting that because of my marital status a lot of things I do would be subject to all sorts of interpretation, but for real I'm just badly behaved, it's not personal. So I mistakenly  put up a photo while hanging out with my friend last night at his and he had a T shirt that said " Bad gang" and tagged it " With the boy".

Jamb Question galore.

-About how people who know me didn't even realize I never put up a photo of Eros. Ever
Speaking of Eros

-About how this would be the first time in a little under 10 years that I would not give him anything on his birthday.

Actually I'm a fucking liar, because I did consider sending him a cuban cigar.


C'est la vie.


For my favorite earrings

My mother was right, all those years of taking of jewelery and just dropping them everywhere, kitchen, bed, floor, bathroom sill was going to burn me when I got older.


How I almost died from embarrassment when I was looking for my Pandora.


For my body to heal it's self


-If Yoga on the beach on Sunday morning is doing the most.
-If " Enjoyment Enthusiast" is the wrong answer when people ask me what I do.

And if any of you were wondering, I am still reading Camino Island.

Monday, June 19, 2017

List 22: List all the favorite places you have been

At the top of this list is actually Beirut Lebanon.

Lebanon was perfect for all the reasons a vacation should be.

Sex ( I went with Eros), Food (Lebanese hospitality), Love ( I was there for was a wedding), Ocean swimming (even though I can't swim), Roof top parties( with the best live band) and watching the sun rise and set on the deck of a boat half naked.

I left a HUGE chunk of my heart in Lebanon and I'm hopeful I can go back (sometime this year) to get it or leave some more.

Art galleries and artist studios are another favorite of mine.
I like how clean and spare the spaces are. In a common case of juxtaposition I love how messy artist studios are. The spaces reek (metaphorically)  of grit, broken dreams and work but literally of paint and acetone and sometimes weed.

I like to think it reminds me of my life and what I portray.
Messy room, messy mind but well thought properly fitted out fits and coherent critical commentary.

Yes that is why art galleries & Artist Studios are my favorite places.

I haven't been, but I know that Riad's in Morrocco would easily feature on this list.




NON STOP BY THE WAY. ( as always)

I know you wanna see me
Nakey Nakey Naked.

When I'm with you all I get is Wild thoughts.
I hope you know I'm for the takin'?

Here for Rihanna giving us a summer anthem filled with thirst trap lyrics and Instagram captions for days.

And how did she morph into this sex siren?
I'm short of words, and I'm never short of words.


And It seems prettty good so far.

but this (which I found wayy more interesting)

James Comey writes so well. I would work for the FBI if it means I get to write that well.

For my favorite earrings. 
and because I'm not a child, I'm not messaging anyone to look for them.
When they are ready they would surface.


about my friends pretty perfect proposal (If I do say so myself) yesterday and the subsequent art gallery visit we made.

about my current manicure, got it done at a random saloon in Lagos Island and it works. It more than works. matches what I have on my leg finger ( Toes- if you do not have twitter)

ps: I love love love the Lagos art space, reminds me of all the good things I have planned out for my living space. White walls and spot lights.


-about forming a book club. I mean I always send out e-books
-of quitting alcohol. I have become quite light headed and  I get absolutely filthy when that liquor gets into me.

Plus I'm supposed to be healing and Lagos traffic stresses me too much.


Plans for the long weekend.


Hoping they don't see the moon or they see it on the wrong day and we get three days public holiday again this year.

Tuesday, June 13, 2017


One of the most interesting things I learnt about going on vacation to a city where you do not speak the language is how much you are forced to rely on energies/Vibes/Vibrations/Intuition ( whatever you want to call it) to decipher situations, sentiments and relationships.

Which makes me wonder before languages, how did we communicate.

I personally have really high energy levels, I am incredibly private but I love to help out people.
It's weird. You would come hang with me and the vibes would be so perfect. ( No horn tutting)

I am yet to find someone who matches my energy with the same intensity. It's awful I know, I also do not care because it is true. In many relationships I am in, I am consistently giving, this isn't a problem for me because plot twist- The more you give, the more you have. ( life principles  I guess)

Lately I have been struggling to give/do things that normally would not be an issue. Ah well.

Now Since I started leaning in and listening to the energies around me, I'm finding my range getting shorter. (I was supposed to find stillness) but now I do not really care what people say and or do.

I'm leaning more into how I feel around you.

And if the vibe does not edify myself. I'm out.

Because here is what I have learnt to be true: The energy you bring can never lie.
So you may be smiling at me and wanting to stab me guts out and because of what you are saying to me, your intent may be concealed but not any more.

This realization has me listening more.
I think it's something I want to do more off in the second half of the year.
Listen more.
Because I'm also learning that I can not learn when I'm talking.

Ps: I am looking serious for a solid solid solid Yoga situation space in Lagos, preferably in Ikoyi or VI.
And I mean Solid, I have attended a few classes and they fall so short they practically do not exist when compared to the one class I took at Viscaya in Miami.
I bought a freaking Yoga mat.
I might as well start doing self practice.

And I looking to going back to playing the Piano.
I happen to have enough time now, so why not?


I know I know
They are easy to put together.


Non stop to this song

Non freaking stop

Before we hit the road 
lets put our phones on silent
Nobody's tryna bring sand to the beach

Say what you will about Diplo and cultural appropriation and misappropriation but he is putting Naija music ( I know not African NAIJA) on the freaking world map.


A strong worded statement to defend Diplo's sexual prowess. 
I dunno who died and made Katy Perry Sasha Grey.


Third installment in the crazy rich Asians series 
and this book is ACE.
Killed it. I love reading about all the luxury I didn't even know


-My Pandora bracelet ( Yes I found it and it was not on anyone's bedstand- Thank you very much)
-So much pride at the fact that GSW won.
#DubsNation #ChefCurry #SweepGang
- Red nail polish and I know it is the wrong choice.


-about everything, which is really weird because what is exciting me?
-My body is making me so pleased. I have no idea why but I quite like what I look like when I wake up and I see myself naked.
- Also my mum's birthday is coming up. Prettttty Excited about that too
So pleased.


For cheap tickets for my Christmas vacation.
I know- Yen yen yen
I still need a vacation.

Monday, June 12, 2017

List 21: List the things that you want to make

Beautiful babies with Wes (aka Diplo).
ps: I have had celebrity crushes before but none of this level. It's equal parts annoying and amusing.

- Mix tape with Diplo
-Coffee table book with travel photos
- a Book ( that has actual words and not just photos)
- nail polish line

And because I am a Nigerian and ultimately a mummy's girl

- my mother happy/proud.

Wednesday, June 7, 2017


Crying at my office desk in joy about how perfect this woman's life is because of her precious/ positive attitude

If you have the time, watch this and see how amazing resilience is.


out cuban cigars and my co-workers can not believe I bought them.

I think my new co-workers think I do not like them much.


This is a rather interesting book


non stop to this.

I mean non stop

Súbeme la radio que esta es mi canción 
Siente el bajo que va subiendo 
Tráeme el alcohol que quita el dolor 
Hoy vamos a juntar la luna y el sol

And wondering if the rumors of Enrique being gay are still true because. *Insert cackle*


-Words that rhyme with Rain-drop for my instagram #WhileIWasAwayWednesday photos I'm about to bless my followers with.

- Translation of despacito in english  and sending out , hey what you doing after work texts.


If Justin beiber is old enough to be singing these lyrics, 
Because I know a few things he is old enough for.

why the hell haven't I started applying for jobs outside Nigeria?
preferably in spaces that have Spanish speaking men?

If I am as bad a person as everyone says I am ( probably yes but still wondering)

If everyone is also right about how I am not working in the right space. My friend T said He feel's


-out emails of one of my favorite books it's called " The lovers Dictionary" by David Levithan. 

Love and light and positive vibes to all my readers.


myself like I lost my keys, no really, my body is making me really happy. 
Not like it hasn't made me happy but I'm talking peak levels.
It's healing nicely and even my little jiggle belly is making me excited.


All my vacation photos are naked. and thus can not go on the gram. :(
LOL. JK. Instagram gon get all these shots.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Vacation tales

I am updating my travel journey on my travel blog soooooo if you are interested in what I look like
( which must mean you are a really poor stalker if you haven't hacked it by now)- You may want to look into that.

I mean I do not have photos yet but we are getting there.

So Part 1 of cuba is up on The travel blog

So go on, you know you wanna click on it and see how much fun I had in Cuba.

Pss: I really should have done a series on the men I met/spoke to in Havana.

Psss: Cuban men are soooo affectionate. I did not even realize how much I liked affection. LOL.

Like they would hold your hands to cross the tiniest gutter. Well they kept holding my hands and you guys know I do not wash my hands. ( I really should disgusting habit).

Pssss: Please stop sending me hints. I am AWFUL at deciphering this shit. AWFUL. Like half the time if I'm not coming on to you I have no idea you are angling for me.

Like you have a better chance of getting me in your bed if you open your mouth and tell me : "I am trying to get you in my bed", instead of a thousand and one baseless conversations that center around nothing.

I know. I know. But life is too short for empty chatter.


Listening non stop to You tell me fuck you with the lights on And I always answer my phone I love this remix so much, it's pr...