Currently

 Listening 

Non-stop to Jelo by Young John & Pheelz

One thing about this song is that both of them were actual BTS guys ( producers) in the music industry and have now gone on to release bangers non stop. The lesson here is not to let anyone pigeon hole you into a box because of what you have done. There is still so much you *CAN* do.

Adupe fun eledumare

Adupe fun olorun oba

Na him give me the package

So make nobody come dey buga

Reading

Morgan Housel's new book called " Same as ever"

Life is lifing a lot right now so I am not going through this as quickly as I'd like, and honestly its not as interesting as the first book so its gonna be slow, but since I'm interested in knowing what is unchanging- I will finish it.

Feeling

Super grateful for how well this move has turned out. I can not lie, when people said moving will be hard I did not totally envision how hard, but the truth is that for us -God's yoke has been easy. and 4 months in, everyone is like OMG you are so lucky because wow, and truly I am so grateful

Also Feeling

COLD. I low key chose my city based on how great the weather was supposed to be and this week something called Arctic blast came through the city and its been minus kini kan. Had to buy a space heater on amazon prime ASAP. And it was not on my list of things I planned to buy in 2024. Anyway...

Expecting

Lots of great news, My amazon delivery, some difficult conversations with my editor about my book.

An easy path to settlement in Canada. Because being expectant is just the best way to be.

Honestly I am really excited about for 2024, I have more than a good feeling about this year, It just feels so much like the year where many things will come together. Like crystalize properly properly PROPERLY.

So my message for you this year is to GET EXCITED, Make big plans, then make steps on how to get them done, 2024 is a really auspicious year. Even the Chinese people have this to say about 2024 ( which is the year of the dragon)- To sum it up, 2024, the Year of the Dragon, encourages us to be ambitious, creative, and strong in facing challenges. By setting big goals, being imaginative, staying resilient, building good connections, and balancing our efforts, we can make this year successful- I mean.

Currently

Reading

ALL THE GRAYMAN BOOKS. Honestly I have not been so sucked into a series like this since maybe The Coroman strike series. I absolutely LOVED That. But this, I adore it so much.

Last week someone asked me how I could manage to read so much, and I was like- what? I enjoy it so much I even run an online book club where I pick a book every month and we discuss it. Its such a great way to get people to read.

Listening

TO THIS SONG NON STOP. Its absolutely crazy how much I love it. 

Cobams is a musical genuis. I actually really like him. I remember an interview of his I listened to, where he said, sometimes sight can be distracting. That his wife may go into a store at the airport to get ONE thing and come out with stuff she didn't plan for and that really struck me as profound. If there is anyone in the music industry I'd love to see uber sucessful. It's him.

Send down fire, bless my ota

Give them long life to see me prosper

Make dem see say me I no dey suffer again

Watching

Actually just finished watching the Strike series, Its an adapation of the Coromon strike series written by JK rowling using a pseudonym. It was done by BBC one and I watched it using the Amazon Fire stick. It was so so good. British TV seems more intentional and less showy than American TV. cant explain it. Anyway if you ware looking for something great to watch, it is a mini series, so ranges from 3-4 episodes per season like sherlock and its great. Also use subtitles because the accent get as e be.

Thinking

About how all my life in Lagos, I've been experiencing fuel queues. Also about how because all of my friends have relocated I either have to make new friends ( Yuck), fly to see them often ( wahala) or move myself ( sigh). God has to punish Buhari for me, its awful, my friends kid turned 1 and I haven't even set eyes on her. How can this be life?

I think about it so much and I hate that I think about it so much.

Wondering

If my stoic approach to most of my relationships makes it difficult for people to accept that I am mostly unrufflable. I also wonder if being the go to person in my family taught me very early that people mostly do not change and relying on myself is a good way to go. ALSO wondering if this has dulled my need to tussle.

I wonder- actually I know that most of them HATE that I let things go very easily- offences AND relationships. So I wonder if its almost like they are always walking on thin ice with me. Like yes she will forgive me, but is this the one that will make her drop me?

Who knows these things

Manifesting

A new life in a new country with my family.

Reconciliation with my cousins, I can't think of a heart break worse than my cousins not speaking to me. And to think the crux of the issue was a fight our parents had. LOL ( but its not really funny)

Laughing

Mostly about the CBA attitude I am serving at work. Honestly lately I can not be arsed about anything work related.

I need time off

Planning

A bridal shower. And wondering what the fuck is this even about? how does this even make any sense.

But planning it anyway because- THAT IS WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR.

My next Holiday- because what else to do except look forward to a big trip

Mulling

over the phrase "That is what friends are for" and wondering if it is giving doormat.

over if getting NDLEA clearance makes any sense. 

over why more Nigerians do not document visa struggles as much as the experience. 

Loving/Enjoying

My latest manicure. 

It is absolutely divine. 

My latest fashion nova haul that took 10 days to get to me from the US. OKAY Global village

Still Enjoying

Being a dog mom. And people say people can't change. Ha!

Currently

 Listening

To non stop Sungba and Omo Ope. by Asake. My friend vanessa thinks he has a certain sexy je ne sais quoi, and honestly after watching the Sunga video a total number of uncountable times, I'm forced to admit she is absolutely correct. The way he caught the stack at 0:35 seconds. Whoever cut the video did such a fantasic job because, that shit was sexy AF.

Wondering

How the hell Olamide discovers these acts and how he is able to nurture them so decently and not eclipse them with his ego and greatness, I mean YBNL has churned out Adekunle Gold, Fireboy and now Asake. That man has the midas touch.

Reading

Nothing for leisure and it shows, but I have queued up the Pakistani retelling of pride & prejudice to read this weekend although I have a ton of work and a birthday party at home because my niece is 3!!! it was just yesterday I went to yankee to look after her- but still will be nice to be able to read something.

Contemplating  

The state of Nigeria and just saying, it is well o.

ALSO CONTEMPLATING GOING FOR CARNIVAL IN 2023.

also seriously contemplating taking my husbands last name, but logistically its a Nightmare. and I really like my own name but I have double barelling. Women really go through it.

Alsooooo thinking of asking my boss for a raise. Because I dey work die.

Enjoying

Being a dog mum. I can not bloody believe I have TWO dogs. They are really the best thing except they shed so BLOODY MUCH. It's sickening. there is dog hair everywhere. I am considering giving them one of those non shed potions. But I really really really enjoy having them.

Being married.  Honestly it makes sense why the first one did not work. It simply could not have.

That's about it.

Hope you are well, I am also looking forward to the public holiday next week and in May as well!!!

Currently

Listening
 non stop to

Nana, na na na

Strike a pose it's a perfect picture

Nana na na na

Nothing feels better than when I dey with you

Honestly this is the song I've showered to consistently for like 3 weeks.

 I think peruzzi is tryna do this whole lover boy vibe and following the success of Majesty. 

This one works perfectly.

Reading

Ideally my books for my exams, but really

I find myself stealing one of these a week from the library - where I study- to read them. Think of them like a pallet cleanser for my actual studying.

I lowkey miss my informal book club I used to run when I'd download books and send them out weekly and stuff.

adult hood is rough man.

I'm also reading for my exams

Wondering

-If I this boy I was texting is ghosting me. And if I need to call him to confirm..

-Also wondering if I am not being reasonable with the hot date boy. Sometimes I feel like I'm being unreasonable. and some other times. well. I know but 

- Also wondering if I am unduly influenced by these M&B books. Honestly

- why Nigeria kills businesses. Legit fell into a funk with this wondering yesterday

- if I can afford to give them afro-nation in Ghana or really if I have money for holiday in 

December

-

Writing

A column for a magazine. I actually can not believe I am doing it.

Pitched it myself and I am writing it now. Like wow.

print byline with my name- I wonder what name to use.

Enjoying

playing with my niece.

She is the absolute cutest baby

Looking forward

To my birthday. 

and to never having to celebrate a birthday in the midst of exam prep ever.

Honestly I turn 31 this year, and I'm sure if I check my 21st birthday post, I was prepping for exams as well.

Honestly this shit is ghetto AF.

I have no plans but I feel very grateful 

Contemplating

Writing a birthday wishlist, but also slightly panicked because what If I get nothing on the list?

Taking along my friend for moral support to my divorce trial.

Putting a man that lives on the mainland on my boyfriend rota

on whether or not this vulnerability jam is my jam

Extremely happy with 

My friendships with my female friends.

and my male friendships

and my new manicure

and lowkey studying. ( this absolutely makes no sense)

all the plans I'm making for my next vacation

and this beauty box I ordered from Bathkandy.

Currently July

Listening
 non stop to this song.

God of your promise,

 you don't speak in vain,

 no syllable empty or void.

Reading

Its a really good book for dealing with difficulties.
I'm currently reading it as I.
very grudgingly read my books for my exams;
 very willingly re-read old love letter emails I sent to the boy I really liked; and
while trying to do away with the spirit of obligation, read my bible. A lot

Writing

My tiny letters. once a month because- honestly I have no reason why I'm not churning them out as fast as I used to. smh

Dodging

(aggresively- if I might add) getting into something exclusive with hercules, he keeps trying to get us exclusive, which tbh is not a problem, it's just like - a problem.


Long story. Cut Short.
He is an absolute great guy, and sweet and kind, BUT when I imagined myself dating anyone else, it wasn't him. and the bible tells me that my expectations shall not be cut short. So you know.

Also kinda helps that I'm trying out celibacy

Trying

out this celibacy thing again. and I'm serious about it, went to Abuja and did not get laid. and honestly dying to flesh everyday is interesting. This time I'm doing it as as a feeler to learning restraint, sexual discipline, and I'm really just looking to see the effect it will have on my spiritual life.

Pruning

my closet. I actually like what I wear these days. It is interesting watching the mix.
I put myself on a clothing budget of N100k a year, and it's july and I'm at 51, and I kinda like the 4-8 pcs of clothes I have bought this year.

Spending

More money than I'd like on my hair. This natural hair movement is an investment- WHY DID NO ONE TELL ME.


and finally.

Enjoying
The hell out of this hot girl summer, that has me reconciling with estranged friends; checking up on my existing friends, and building up the courage to kinda like ask the boy I have a crush on out to drinks?

okay one more thing:

Excited
that my niece is FINALLY COMING HOME.

Currently

Listening 

Non stop to this because. Maxwell is the OG lover boy.

Turn around and look and see what you been missing

Look behind you and put on your glasses, forward vision

Maybe one day we'll be more than we were way, way back when

Maybe then they'll listen

Maybe then the world will understand

As an aside, has anyone spent her employers hours imagining what sex with Maxwell will be like? Or that is just me?

Reading

ALL THE SEX DIARIES ON THE CUT.
They are basically a week in different people's sex lives in NYC. Why isn't anyone doing that in Lagos? It's pretty much Sin city.
You can read them here

Watching

What I eat because ya girl is doing another whole 30. Also seems to be working because last time I swung by hercules for a quick mid day stint, he said " ah complete 30 you are looking peng". Today is day 30 and I am looking forward to my first drink.


Getting

Comfortable with my career trajectory. Was having a had time accepting it but I had a meeting with my sales team and they gave me a round of applause. And I'm like monetize it bitches.

All up in my feelings.
Someone who I became very good friends with as a result of Eros's and I relationship is getting married, and he has invited me repeatedly. I'm like pass. I don't wanna run into Eros. Also I'm studying.

Thinking

of how grateful I am, to finally turn 30 and everything I have  and how thankful I am to be living this life I got. I've never been one to think your past determines how your life trajectory, is going to be and I'm thankful for that mindset.

How blessed I am that my boss was willing to give me a chance. and now I'm killing the role.  and I have no idea why, but I'm so thankful.

How effective the No 2 bad day rule is for building consistency in life.

Is there any need to write a 30th birthday post?

Feeling

My post whole 30 body.
Saw my friend over the weekend and she could not believe my waist line.
She think's its all the sex I'm having, she doesn't know I'm a star fish.

My short nails.

My 8 week old braids. I know I know. I've had braids in for 8 weeks now, and they look 2 week old.
And no I do not use hairnet to sleep.


Missing

My French Lover. ( I know, I know).
and all my free time because all I do now is STUDY.

Hoping

The documentary goes as planned. I'm nervous AF.