Tired of Waiting

I got tired of waiting to read a love story I can relate to, I decided to do something about it.

Keep your eyes peeled.

Meanwhile I just realised how much overlapping the men in my life were doing.

Thinking of my great 3 5 loves and I can't talk about one without someone random popping up.

Unlike most men I know, a lot of the decisions I made regarding the relationships I had, were influenced by concurrent existing relationships with other men.

Think a Venn Diagram.

But Only my very first Love T, did not experience that juggle act with me.

But before people crawl out of the wood work. Let it be known that I have always been honest.

Always, was honest when the men overlapped, was honest when they had to stop over lapping, and was even most honest when they could not overlap for social reasons.

*ps- Rebound, I am so sorry you came ALL the way for my birthday and I could not see you. ( You get a slot in my great loves roll call.

I am really really excited about this but I am nervous as well. Like I mean if you read my blog you have probably figured out the loves by now.

BUT it is still an emotionally tasking thing to do. It is like looking for something in a bag of clothes you have kept away for so long and you just do not know what you will find.

And it is scary because- What if I find something I had planned to give out and decide to keep for myself?

Especially when I know I can not keep anything I have kept in the bag to give out.

Because Happily Married.

Because all you have is your word and when you say you are going to give out something. You keep your word and if it out.

Pss- I really am talking about clothes. and men.

Perseverance in Love.

source: Google images.

When dating, or when attempting to get into an exclusive relationship with someone who ticks all your boxes ( imagined or real)- Heart break is inevitable.

The likelihood of the said person not wanting you with the same intensity with which you want them might occur.

Or even worse, they might just take you as a filler or starter till main dish shows up and they discard you.

Another outcome is that they just are not that into you.

A more favorable outcome could be that- you eventually grow on them and all those qualities your mother repeatedly affirmed to you as a child, is finally visible by your object of desire.

Not one to over reach on statistics but the odds are that if you and your object of desire do not hit it off, from day one- you might get a 20% chance of a favorable outcome. And 20% is over reaching.

To increase your odds, you are likely to jump hoops. You pay for expensive dates, you stay up all night even when you have work tomorrow for trans-Atlantic phone calls- rendering you useless at work.  You find yourself willing to swim through the Styx River in Hades if that is what it takes.

But this really truly begs the question.  When do you call it quits in the game of getting someone to date you exclusively?

Does the patient dog always get the fattest bone when it comes to matters of the heart?

Or is that just an age old adage that is inapplicable in this 21^st century speed of light fast dating world?

I tweeted about this last night (and no, I would not be plugging my twitter account on here), and concluded that we all need to make better choices, with our heads. For our sanity and for the sanity of the friends who are forced to listen to your complains- repeatedly.

Leke however tweeted back at me regarding the issue, “You’ve got to know when to hold them, you’ve got to know when to fold them, you’ve got to know when to walk away and know when to run.

I agree. Wholeheartedly.

Will you still love me tomorrow?

This song, I saw it on Rust geeks blog.

And I thought, why is she singing about the story of my life?

Well a good portion of how I feel( right now) is in this song.

"So tell me now 'cause I wont ask again, will you still love me tomorrow?"

Life changing and other cool stories

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed- (Genesis 2:25 KJV)

So today instead of preparing my SRM, I was here trawling the interwebs, and who do I see?

This life changing blouse. I know I said I did not want anything for my birthday AND I know it has passed

and I know I have promised myself no more asos-ing till next month

-Side bar: Some of my goodies arrived today!

But this blouse is calling all my names, gbo gbo Yoruba o, ati Isoko pelu nick names sef.

I do not know what I am going to do. Worst part. The top is on sale, so I know it is going to go out of stock soon..

Infact there is no more 10, but that is cool a 12 works just as well.

Life changing blouse in all its Peplum glory.

So my dear readers, brothers, sisters if the good Lord lays it down in your heart to gift me this delicious blouse here is the link. Life changing blouse, go on click on it.

Plus the price is reasonable as fuck.

It's just that I have told myself- NO more.

But then again, are rules not meant to be broken?

I do not know. this blouse speaks to my soul.

Someone do something!

Question

Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abdundantly above all that we ask or think... ( Eph 3:20)

What do you ask for from someone who consistently exceeds your expectations?

Again today, The Lover asked what I wanted for my birthday.

Because we both do not know when my ideal present would be available.

I said- I do not know, what do you want to give me?

Him: Everything.

*end of conversation*

Stereo Hearts.

There is a pain that is caused by a perpetual search for intimacy. Although we are not lonely, we feel alone. When we are not alone and we see a happy couple, we long for what they have but still want to be alone because it’s easier. Even though it’s easier, we are still miserable. It is an interesting cycle. Yes. There are those of us who are happy being single, then there are those of us who are unhappy being single but do not want to be in relationships. - Khaya.

I totally have a crush on him. On twitter off kess, he also didnt go to Uni and is an Ad exec in SA ( think Don draper a la madmen )

I would have put up his blog links, but there is no fun in sharing.

ps im still basking in the post birthday euphoria. to everyone that came AND Oyinkan. Thank you!

#np Stereo Hearts. * Insert the bbm love emoticon here*

pss: for some reason im itching to see the lover tomorrow night, im actually getting excited about it.

Urgh i hate that he excites me. ok a part of me likes it. still Iyama.

My Lover

My lover is probably one of the best things to happen to me.

and i am someone who a lot of good things have happened to.

I think i must have been extra good in my past life,

that God decided to reward me and bless me with him.

I am thankful, each and everyday i spend with him

for him, for what i have with him, and for who i have become with him.

I am also thankful for the fights, the rough patches and the tears.

somehow all that makes all of this worth it.

he is a good man. and i appreciate that.

although we do not see eye to eye on some things, actually make that many things

he has always always been there for me.

and i am truly thankful.

Obviously i did something right in my past life,

God decided i deserved the best and

gave me the best.