Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Perseverance in Love.

source: Google images.

When dating, or when attempting to get into an exclusive relationship with someone who ticks all your boxes ( imagined or real)- Heart break is inevitable.

The likelihood of the said person not wanting you with the same intensity with which you want them might occur.

Or even worse, they might just take you as a filler or starter till main dish shows up and they discard you.

Another outcome is that they just are not that into you.

A more favorable outcome could be that- you eventually grow on them and all those qualities your mother repeatedly affirmed to you as a child, is finally visible by your object of desire.

Not one to over reach on statistics but the odds are that if you and your object of desire do not hit it off, from day one- you might get a 20% chance of a favorable outcome. And 20% is over reaching.

To increase your odds, you are likely to jump hoops. You pay for expensive dates, you stay up all night even when you have work tomorrow for trans-Atlantic phone calls- rendering you useless at work.  You find yourself willing to swim through the Styx River in Hades if that is what it takes.

But this really truly begs the question.  When do you call it quits in the game of getting someone to date you exclusively?

Does the patient dog always get the fattest bone when it comes to matters of the heart?
Or is that just an age old adage that is inapplicable in this 21st century speed of light fast dating world?

I tweeted about this last night (and no, I would not be plugging my twitter account on here), and concluded that we all need to make better choices, with our heads. For our sanity and for the sanity of the friends who are forced to listen to your complains- repeatedly.

Leke however tweeted back at me regarding the issue, “You’ve got to know when to hold them, you’ve got to know when to fold them, you’ve got to know when to walk away and know when to run.

I agree. Wholeheartedly.

1 comment:

Lekan Adio said...

This preached to me, i'm so clueless about the dating game, and how it operates nowadays.

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