Which was strange because I did not plan to go shopping.
Granted I had been doing a lot of shopping all month- for my sister, for my aunt, for my friend.
Always shopping and since Christmas is already here, I decided to do a bit of present shopping- And I am done now by the way.
I went to the shops, got carried away and went shopping.
I really was not going to buy anything except this blouse and sweater then I saw it.
A little history on it- YOU know those items that you just have to own?
Over summer my friend gave me a bottle of sally Hansen mudslide.
now I know there has been an influx of newer brands in the market- awon china glaze and co.
But let me tell you, sally Hansen is the oldest money of nail polish. When I was like 10 or 12 and looking at fashion magazines- the sally Hansen pages were usually the best campaign in the magazines. so beautiful.
Anyways so my other friend- Asake, saw it liked it, took it.... I finally got around collecting it back.
Then I went to visit my cousin in festac two days before came back.
Said cousin- saw it liked it, promised, in vain if I might add, not to finish it- I don't know.
All I do know is that I came back to Dundee- without my mudslide.
So randomly I walked into boots- And what do I see- My mudslide at £6.99
I am in awe, I had no idea, nail polish was that expensive full price.
So I am deliberating on whether or not to buy this nail polish.
When November comes around- and its No Buy Vember.
Anywayssss- I ran into a pack of four Sally Hansen nail polishes at £7.99.
Do the math. The offer was too good to be true- PLUS, It had my darling Mudslide in the pack. With this super delicious shade of Red.
God works in Mysterious ways.
So good( and bad) people, that is how my No buy Vember campaign took a hit.
Next day I decided to stop over at the ebay and bid of this delicious dress when- I lost the bid.
And I realized that was the Almighty making sure I got back on course for the remaining 7 Days of November.
So- As the bible says, we are hard pressed on every side but not crushed... struck down but not destroyed.
Here is to finishing November without buying anything.
Meanwhile- I noticed that- I spent A LOT of money doing nothing this month, Not shopping but indulging in my excesses- Such as baking and other stuff.
Just goes to show that money will still be spent anyways. LOL
And as usual, got the good folk at twitter including myself flustered.
The video- depicts reality for a lot of people, and thus- got the whole marriage discussion up and running as usual.
Nigerian twitter is obessed with Marriage- lets blame bella Naija.
Anyway- all the discussion reminded me of a couple I know.
The husbands family did not want him to marry her, because she couldn't cook.
He married her, and they are happily married now 19 years abi 20 years.
Well mostly happy. Bar that one time he beat her, and she called her father- who is now late, but was a general in the Nigerian Army. And he ended up in prison for a HOT minute*
Until his sister came to bail him out.
Buuttttt they are still happily married and stuff.
So in the spirit of Marriages being in the air- I swear EVERYbody is getting married.
In December, I have 5 weddings in Lagos.
That is 5 different dresses. Plus at least 2 bridal showers.
Lagos is so expensive in December.
But I am soo home sick. :(
Anyways so for all my friends- getting married, especially you Nneka- I know you dont read this blog, But if you ever come across it, you should totally read this,
and work so hard, so your marriage never ever ever ends.
My friend L, is from Uganda, and I find that whenever my other Nigerian friends and I are gisting, She has to stop us occasionally to explain terms that we do not know the meaning of- such as - Abi, Shebi, Sha- etc.
So today we were talking about toasters.
And she asked- what does toasting mean? And I'm like talking too? wooing? courting?
Toasting is toasting because a nigga is trying to get to you- Its the period before you say yes abi?
Anyways then the term catching fish came up.
In Queen's college- Which was an all girls school, two occasions were important to Us. or Me.
At 13/14/15 any opportunity to catch fish was welcome.
The opportunities came only when boys were allowed into school. - Inter house sport AND Rotary whatever.( I cant remember what the meetings were called)
The rotary thing was pretty exclusive, And Because I was MC of every Rotary occasion- I saw the boys alright.
But what I could never understand was how at that age, we did nothing explicity got boys to advance and talk to us and some how credited ourselves.
We refered to boys coming to talk to us as catching Fish.
Catching Fish. We wore those hideous uniforms, Hideous- But somehow got boys to talk to us AND gave ourselves props for it.
I think there was something we were taught in QC- which I can not explain or put into words that has to do with attracting men.
My Friend L- Does not know how we " Nigerian girls do it"
I think Nigerian girls have found the balance in being toasted.
You are able to front- But at the same time give off enough for said toaster to continue toasting you while not coming off as easy.
And I did try to explain this to L- who the Nigerian men here are in awe off. But can not understand how someone can be so " without guile".
L has all her cards on the table.
And that is not working for her.
Sooooo do Nigerian Men revel in chasing women who make them jump hoops?
Four Other things.
1- Best Man movie 2 is coming out soon. I have a crush on Taye Diggs. Who I am sure smells delicious.
I feel really blessed to be in a generation fortunate enough to be gifted not one but two best man movies.
2- How impressionable are you by tv? I remember watching boomerang with eddie murphy- and KNOWING that the minute I could get my nails done- I would ALWAYS have my nails looking on point
( In the movie, he left a woman because her toe nails were shit).
And offcourse the Domitila movie which I already spoke about. Before somewhere on the blog.
3- I do not know if I should indulge in Mr A. Mr A is everything that could go wrong. Bottled up. BUT he smells so damn good.- We will see sha.
4- Did I tell you how the few friends I made here are the most amazing. And I do not say this because of my extra thoughtful birthday presents. OR because they are always good to my terrible ass. But because I like to applaud myself on my excellent choice of people.
BUT I need to credit God for bringing all these people into my life. There is absolutely no way- I worked this one out on my own.
I know I said four but last thing.
I baked my birthday cake, myself, from scratch.
You guys need to know that
1- if my CEO/ Partner life doesn't work out
2- And I do not become a super model.
3 I could always become a baker.
Everyone said the cake was amazing. So I am guessing it was.
For my Super twenty Fifth birthday- I wanted to go all out!
Give them Vegas with some friends! Or better still go somewhere overtly romantic with the lover.
Due to lack of planning and general logistics. I did neither.
I had a party at home.
And it was amazing.
I had 10 people over. cooked a three course meal for them. baked the most delicious cake ever.
Had too many cocktails.
Received the best presents. It was a super birthday. To say the least.
It was a general reminder that- Whatever will happen, will happen.
Its what I learnt this year- Let the chips fall where they may- what wants to happen will happen and everything will be all right.
I had an amazing year. And an even better end to the year.
Also can I tell you people how amazing my friends here in Dundee are?
I got the best birthday presents in the world.
I have never been happier on a birthday.
I think. I am not sure- and I am a pretty happy person.
Also I think I need to say a huge thank you. A lot of people called me, looked for me, texted me.
Instagrammed me well wishes- WHICH I am proud to say I returned all greetings with thanks and stuff. I am really proud of myself I never reply to those things!
So much love! Everyday should be my birthday guys!