just thought to share this.

as usual while im at work and looking at countless excel sheet of numbers doing my head in.

ok thats a lie, today ive only looked at one.

i was also surfing the web. this is what i found.

"If you let it, perfectionism will rob you of peace, plus the joy of whatever you’ve accomplished so far. The sportswear manufacturer Fila took out a full-page ad in a newspaper to honour its NBA All-Star spokesman, Grant Hill, and, at the same time, take a swipe at the pressure young people feel today to be perfect. The ad pictures Hill surrounded by this text: ‘This year Grant Hill led his team in scoring, rebounding, assists and steals, led his team back into the playoffs, led the league in All-Star balloting, earned a place on the Olympic team, didn’t punch an official, didn’t demand a contract extension, was never tardy, was always cordial, didn’t dump his high school friends, listened to his mother, remembered the doorman at Christmas, made his bed daily, promised to take shorter showers in an effort to conserve water, got plenty of sleep, didn’t hurt a fly, organised his thoughts, chose paper over plastic, appeared fully clothed in interviews, improved his vocabulary, counted his blessings, said nice things about his teammates, fed coins into other people’s parking meters, kept his thermostat at sixty-eight, practised what he preached, actually paid attention to the stewardess’s emergency flight instructions, donated a kidney – and vowed to do better next year.’ Now, let’s get serious. There will always be areas of your life that need improvement; you will never ‘arrive’. But that doesn’t mean you can’t stop and savour the moment, or celebrate the miles already covered and say to yourself, ‘I’m not all that I should be, but I’m better than I used to be. I’m all right, and I’m on my way.’"

As i turn a year older this year. i say to myself. im not all that i should be, but im waaay better than i used to be. Im VERY alright, and im on my way to becoming who i am going to be.

I get Uber emo when my birthday comes around. *sniff*

Im also a reformed cry baby.

On this Marriage tip

LOL

so im at work and crawling Bella Naija, when i came across this

http://www.bellanaija.com/2011/10/19/bn-hot-topic-marriage-financial-wars/

its ok, you dont have to click the link, i am going to tell you what happened there.

so basically the writer got this bbm broadcast

“Emeka and his wife Ada have been living in a supposedly rented duplex in VI for the past ten years. He just recently discovered that for the past 10 yrs, the house they had been living in belonged to his wife and they had been paying rent to an agent with normal yearly increases and the money goes to Ada. What would u do if u were in Emeka’s shoes?”

And she requested commenters views.

and we all know how dramatic BN commenters are by now. if you dont know, there is a nice box of last waiting for you.

so basically these are my 2 most favourite comments ( i know that didnt even sound right to me)

Tiki October 19, 2011 at 7:05 PM

If I was a man, and Ada’s husband, that marriage is over. Let me tell you why.
1. For Ada to be the landlady, and not tell him, is pure deceit and greed. I assume that the man contributed to the rent, and maybe even paid all of it. I assume that there were days when paying the rent was a problem, and they had to go without some other thing to be able to afford it. I mean, the BBM talks about normal yearly increases. Not only did Ada sit by her husband and murmur platitudes when he worried about the rent, but she did that while snickering ‘You go pay my money, whether you like it or not’ in her heart. I bet you she even encouraged her husband to go without something he really wanted, so that he could pay the rent…to her.
2. For Ada to team up with an agent, and use the agent as a front to collect rent from her husband, is the worst kind of disrespect ever. NOBODY can tell me that the husband was never an object of ridicule behind his back , for paying rent to his wife without his knowledge. How can you love someone, and humiliate them like that, moreso in front of strangers?
3. I don’t care if she bought the house, built it, or inherited it. If she had property, it is her place to tell her husband. It is women like this who make marriage hard for other honest ladies who are willing to give it their all. If you cannot trust your guy, why marry him? especially, why marry him THEN deceive him? Does that make you better or worse than him? Why marry somebody, exchange bodily fluids, tie your life to theirs and make them the parent of your children, share spiritual, emotional, and yes financial ties…and you can’t tell them you have property?
I don’t care how many times Ada may have been hurt – she should value her marriage and her husband, more than she values her bank balance. Period.

ps. everything I just said, would equally apply if the shoe was on the other foot.

second one.

Lailai!!! We are looking at their lives from outside. No one knows what she saw in him that made her decide to do such. For her to have done that for 10yrs could mean all through out their marriage something was up, and she had to make sure they were on leveled grounds without him knowing. Or she didn’t know how to break the truth to him, and in order to keep up the charade, she had to increase the rent according to the market price that way he won’t be suspicious. It happens.
Sometimes, men can be a bit mull-headed about things. Maybe from the beginning, he couldn’t afford a home in VI, and she didn’t to live else where…thus the beginning of the lie (selfish, yup). Or maybe he wanted a home badly in VI and could not afford it, so she concocted a lie to make him happy.
Many men are very uncomfortable when the wife is the wealthier one in the family. Even worse, the owner of the home. So really, if the case were that she did it mainly to keep his pride in check and allow him to be the MAN of the home, then it was a selfless act.

When you think about it from that point of view, the man should be thanking his God. Assuming she wasn’t bugging him for cash, the money he paid yearly for their home would probably go in to feeding allowance, kids clothing, upkeep of their home, and cash to take care of her personal expense. Some don’t realize that once they sum up the total amount of the petty cash that goes out of their pocket every week to maintain their homes, it surpasses the cost that goes in to renting their home.

ok i lied, i have 3. this is the absolute bestest one!

Will October 19, 2011 at 8:06 PM

The reason why he has not built his own house is the same reason why he is living in a rented apartment secretly owned by his wife. The fact that she can conveniently & confidently do this means one thing, she is in absolute control. Further justifying my suspicion that some concoction from the underworld has been involved all along. Look, this case is ver simple! Emeka is married to the devil, whose only mission is to steal, kill & destroy! Only God can deliver him enerstly from this folly, for him to ever make it in life. Sigh*…………………………………WOMAAAAAN!

trust them to involve jazz. gatta love Nollywood effect.

actually there are a lot more. you know what BN consider this PR. yall should click the link

http://www.bellanaija.com/2011/10/19/bn-hot-topic-marriage-financial-wars/

there it is again. incase yall are exactly like me and too lazy to scroll up.

My Opinion.

Emeka should be thankful. Very thankful.

I hate

I hate when i watch a movie or an episode of a Tv series im currently watching

reminds me of the lover.

Im currently watching the White Collar.

and season 3 episode 8 Neil Caffery( a con artiste) also the character whom the series

is built around has a love interest. Sarah( insurance repo).

basically she finds out that he stole art worth millions and then left him.

but before she walked out, he said to her" you knew who i was before we got involved"

and she said " Yes, you live in the clouds, while i live on 34th street"

and she walked out.

A lot of times When i argue with the lover, it comes down to this.

Me knowing he was a certain way and deciding to date him and him getting mad because

i hate that he is a certain way 4 years later.

I dont know if im making any sense.

But i wonder if the next time we have an argument and he brings up the " you know this is who i am line"

i would be strong enough to be like sarah.

and walk away.

and i probably wouldnt be able to.

And. I. Hate. That.

White collar is amazing btw.

Just another random day.

"If you want to start a blog, let it be an extension of yourself. Let it reflect your personality. If you don’t have a personality, then start a website and hire/partner with writers who have personality. If you aren’t doing that, then you need to at least find something to differentiate yourself. Create exclusive content. Unless your best friend is Drake and he’s sending you new songs directly, it’ll be difficult to compete with blogs who are part of the New Music Cartel. So let’s explore other ideas."- Culture Evi.

that is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

I still havent been to the gym in ages, yes i am hiding from that man. i know its a total loser move. But i really have no idea what to do.

My birthday is coming. and i have decided to stop requesting pressies. i know. just randomly im now on that, if you love me, spoil me tip- i aint gonna beg.

Although i would, scratch that, may may may be having a nizzzze house parry.

i however have no idea what to get myself this year. *sigh*

i really need a holiday. i miss being in Uni.

Who would have thought, i would never be able to stay on the phone till 4 am because i have work the next day.

I met the man that may soon become my Step Father.

and i like him. although we havent spent much time together.

I like him because i see how happy he makes my Mummy.

she deserves all the happiness in the world.

speaking of fathers, i was over at the lovers on sunday making Mac and cheese, when i was done, he tasted it and asked me to offer his father some.

That right there is the most awkward shit ever.

i mean i am all for getting into the good books of my Lovers parents, but offering food- nah son.

its too soon.

Or im just not ready to delve into that just yet.

there are some things you just cant get back from.

Im actually really excited about my upcoming birthday. i feel like somebody is gonna give me a Bentley or something equally as fancy, although lets be honest, there is nothing as fancy as a bentley. not like i need a new car or anything, the Kia works fine.

One more thing ive observed about me. i am good a good to go type person. i dont know if this is good, or bad, but its me.

for instance, while everybody is all over something, lets say a particular dress, im like yah whatevez, im not naked so im good to go.

i got this from my mum, thats the exact same attitude she has, to everything, its probably the reason she has plenty money (inside joke)

she says things like, if you see the sitting room of my subordinates, and you see my own you will be shocked, me as long as there is chair, im happy.

and thats the type of person i am. but sometimes i wonder if having expensive tastes is good.

or if loving something so much that i would starve to buy it is okay.

In uni i had this room mate who used to say she would rather buy clothes with her pocket money then starve.

I thought she was mad, till i encountered people who did stuff like that, ALOT.

for the record i think they are all mad.

or maybe i should just be thankful that the thing i would starve myself over, doesn't have material value.

Any ways, i got to work early today. :) before anybody else!!!!!

Im strange.

i think i have to get a new gym.

I also know that i am strange.

Game night is tomorrow, and instead of me to be buying drinks.

the lover and I are off to dinner.

smh at myself.

Party Planning and other things.

I'm currently attempting to draft a list of people that I intend to have over at my game night on thursday.

Why Thursday?

Friday is gym night. PLUS the mother returns 1st flight on saturday. and guess who is going to get her from the airport?

Exactly.

So for games night, all i need is alcohol and the game and disposable cups.

I may have involved small chops but nah men, - e too cost.

so prally just biscuits and alcohol and the cups and mixers. i am excited!

So it also turns out i have a very familiar face..

Security at clients site walked up to me and asked IF I WENT TO IGBOBI COLLEGE.

Nothing is wrong with attending Igbobi college o- I know people that went there.

But cammaaaan. really i look familiar and did i attend Igbobi. i know for one it wasnt a mixed school. so i just laughed and said okay.

Planning games night is so tedious, i need a party planner.

OK im just gonna consider games night the test run for my Birthday house parry.

Compliments

My friend A, just sent this to me randomly on bbm today.

" You are a very peculiar woman O. You can imagine how much this irks me( Joking) to say this but you are really awesome ( when you look beyond your great diva-ness- lol). Your (rather expansive) grasp of things around you and your informed appreciation for things from rap to football to politics, makes you a rather unique lady. I'm very proud of you as a friend. I just thought you should know that"

* turns of background violin music*

When people ask me how i can sleep at night being who i am, i should show them this message.

It totally blew me away.

I literally had to rinse my self. this washing was too much.

But thank you A. now if this pride can translate itself into one of the things on my birthday wishlist.

lol jk.

Hi Rihanna.