food for thought.

In as much as ive never hidden the fact that i have always wanted to model,

I quite like my day job, and im pretty good at it.

I want to make partner and buy out my firm, put my name on that letter head paper type shit.

I mean i cant sing or dance or walk right( cause of my reccurent left knee patella dislocation)ever

hence i cant model. and i walk with a slight spring in my step.

But i can balance the hell out of an account.

Cash flows are my babies, and preparing accounts- piece of cake.

My cousin and his friends used to mock me that if i get high my weird thing ( apparently everyone has one) would be to open an accounts text book and balance the shit outta it.

( I have never smoked weed, I am scared shitless of stuff that make me lose control)

so when i saw this article, it got me thinking... If i did lose my Day Job.. What am i going to get up too?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jermaine-spradley/a-millennial-manifesto-jobs_b_956053.html

Because of this im off to learn a handwork, be it sewing o, or hair dressing. or something random.

Although i have an awesome taste in Music AND i would be a kick ass dee jay.

so Food for thought yall.. yay or nay to 9-5's?

Thankful

This year has been amazing.

I Have so much to be thankful for.

Too much sef.

God has been too good to me.

I have been blessed beyond measure, if i say want to use all the strands of hair on my head as tongues to thank him, best believe it still would not be enough.

Thank you Lord.

You have been too kind. And i am more than thankful.

I get teary eyed, when i have to look back at where God has brought my Family and I from.

We have too much to be thankful.

And father i am thankful.

... Sounds like a Tush frog

I can not sing to save anybody talk less of my own life.

But Eneni wanted Karaoke, so we gave her karaoke... Lagos style.

I had too much fun last night.

Shout out to all the girls that came through.

Also special extra special shout out to the yummy yellow boy that is going to drive mt to join my church choir.

When we walked in, he was sitting alone singing Sinatra's i did it my way.

and Negro was Killing it. Infact he was over killing it.

Infact never has the urge to be friends with someone ever been that strong for me. ever.

I actually hate new people so tryna make new friends sans a mutual friend- is most likely impossible.

But my girls and i turned into famz and joined him.

Turns out the Queen Famz knew him so we were covered.

However Negro drives on the other side of the road. :(

and is Yellow.

But it was such an amazing night. I wish i could bottle it up and sip the memories everytime im low.

:)

Def one of the best weekends in a while.

And i killed it at the wedding.

One lady said a picture i took is the kind people use to find husband.

thats how yummy i looked. :)

Today i went to see the lover.

Its Odd how i dont see him for a week and when i see him. it hits me how much i missed him.

Very odd.

I miss you boo. ( he doesnt read this so im cool)

lol.

OH and HE LIKED THE HAIR.

Ive found an excuse to go to my office tomorrow so i can use style to show my new birthday in the office.

It is actually that nice.

Today i was strong, i went to ICF with Oyinkan and her girlies, AND i remained strong and ordered chicken & sweet corn soup. and i did not buy chinese or muffins or any of those things.

I am really proud of myself.

Because i suspect i am a closet foodie. :(

Update

So i got my hair braided. and it looks good. i quite like it.

its also really colored.

BUT it hurts too much when i attempt to dutty wine with it.

so maybe next weekend then.

My gurl Eneni is in for the weekend!

and she brought my birthday present!!!!!

Old friends Rock!

#sidebar New friends should seize this opportunity to rock and buy me Presents!

You are now reading the blog of a proud new owner of Zaron pallet!!!!

Im sooo excited.

I love her and Nengi so much. they are practically my sisters!

However thier extermely hot brother Teks is NOT my brother.

( hey teks if you read this, we should kick it (read as get drinks) sometime- in the near future like say tomorrow, after the wedding?)

LOL jk.

However I'd like to know when Deji Fanta got that Hot.

Onto more important things, like how fabulous i shall be looking tomorrow.

I actually have 3 dresses and i have NO idea which to wear.

I need to stop living outta my suit case.

Well in my defense, its just one suitcase now.

I have managed to unpack the other one- into the current suitcase.

lol.

I amuse myself sometimes.

My hair is freaking gorge and its exciting me

If i knew Ghana weaving would make me look like good, You know i would have been on it since 19 60 gbelele.

but it chops front hair so im just gonna make the most outta it.

However this is really spesh to me because i

1) made it under the Ikeja bridge.

Ok not really under, more like opposite under the bride.

2) It was MORE expensive than i would have paid

at the salon at Aguda where i usually braid my hair.

3) I managed to forget my wallet at home when i went to make my hair

which i kinda didnt notice until i had 2 pay for sthg after they had started my hair and i could turn back, so i basically called my home gurl ( Shout out to D) who didnt have cash, but asked her Man to give my driver which i sent to go and pick it up.

Oh and D if you are reading this, there is no way im driving to GRA on a saturday so yeah, you'll get ur cash on Monday.

4) My Lover totally hearts braids and all that jazz, he thinks they are uber sexy. i think i agree.

I am seriously giving off dominatrix vibes when i pack it into a pony tail.

and its yansh length.

I swear this Ghana weaving can do no wrong in my eye.

oh probably except the fact that my hair is due and the life span is 2 weeks.

BUT I STILL LOVE EEETTTTT.

and yes, i realise how self absorbed this post is.

speaking of hair

My home girl Anu went Natural and is even more self absorbed than me, she decided to blog about it.

go on -----> www.nushy-myhairjourney.blogspot.com copy and past that into your browser.

Im yet to find someone that liberated by cutting off her hair.

But then what do i know? i cut mine when i was 18,

I think as long as you feel good, with relaxed, or natural or "ghana weave" hair, you are beautiful.

ok gatta catch some beauty winks to look super great tomorrow!

Musings

I think we enable the men in our society to be dependents.

I look at my 21 year old brother, who is still living at home, who every thing is done for.

At 13, i was a frequent visitor to oyingbo market, i was cooking and what not.

I go to the market now sparingly because i have a maid( who is probably as useless as my brother)

But the point is, i was raised washing plates- that my brother used to eat

Making the bed- That he slept on

Sweeping the palor - that he and his friends came to play game in.

and basically picking up after him.

Infact my Mother would scream at me, if any thing happened to my brother.

And now she complains that he isnt accountable.

Because he has never been accountable for anything.

and all the while my mother would be screaming about how i intend to go and disgrace her in my husbands house if i burn stew.

One day im going to tell her" My husband probably cant cook -except indome- whatever i cook, he would eat"

- when i move into my husbands house off course.

So im wondering Who do we blame for men that are dependent, the men?

Or the mothers who babied them all their lives?

- This still applies to my grandmother and my Uncles, you should see how she pets them. *vom*

just thought to share this.

as usual while im at work and looking at countless excel sheet of numbers doing my head in.

ok thats a lie, today ive only looked at one.

i was also surfing the web. this is what i found.

"If you let it, perfectionism will rob you of peace, plus the joy of whatever you’ve accomplished so far. The sportswear manufacturer Fila took out a full-page ad in a newspaper to honour its NBA All-Star spokesman, Grant Hill, and, at the same time, take a swipe at the pressure young people feel today to be perfect. The ad pictures Hill surrounded by this text: ‘This year Grant Hill led his team in scoring, rebounding, assists and steals, led his team back into the playoffs, led the league in All-Star balloting, earned a place on the Olympic team, didn’t punch an official, didn’t demand a contract extension, was never tardy, was always cordial, didn’t dump his high school friends, listened to his mother, remembered the doorman at Christmas, made his bed daily, promised to take shorter showers in an effort to conserve water, got plenty of sleep, didn’t hurt a fly, organised his thoughts, chose paper over plastic, appeared fully clothed in interviews, improved his vocabulary, counted his blessings, said nice things about his teammates, fed coins into other people’s parking meters, kept his thermostat at sixty-eight, practised what he preached, actually paid attention to the stewardess’s emergency flight instructions, donated a kidney – and vowed to do better next year.’ Now, let’s get serious. There will always be areas of your life that need improvement; you will never ‘arrive’. But that doesn’t mean you can’t stop and savour the moment, or celebrate the miles already covered and say to yourself, ‘I’m not all that I should be, but I’m better than I used to be. I’m all right, and I’m on my way.’"

As i turn a year older this year. i say to myself. im not all that i should be, but im waaay better than i used to be. Im VERY alright, and im on my way to becoming who i am going to be.

I get Uber emo when my birthday comes around. *sniff*

Im also a reformed cry baby.

On this Marriage tip

LOL

so im at work and crawling Bella Naija, when i came across this

http://www.bellanaija.com/2011/10/19/bn-hot-topic-marriage-financial-wars/

its ok, you dont have to click the link, i am going to tell you what happened there.

so basically the writer got this bbm broadcast

“Emeka and his wife Ada have been living in a supposedly rented duplex in VI for the past ten years. He just recently discovered that for the past 10 yrs, the house they had been living in belonged to his wife and they had been paying rent to an agent with normal yearly increases and the money goes to Ada. What would u do if u were in Emeka’s shoes?”

And she requested commenters views.

and we all know how dramatic BN commenters are by now. if you dont know, there is a nice box of last waiting for you.

so basically these are my 2 most favourite comments ( i know that didnt even sound right to me)

Tiki October 19, 2011 at 7:05 PM

If I was a man, and Ada’s husband, that marriage is over. Let me tell you why.
1. For Ada to be the landlady, and not tell him, is pure deceit and greed. I assume that the man contributed to the rent, and maybe even paid all of it. I assume that there were days when paying the rent was a problem, and they had to go without some other thing to be able to afford it. I mean, the BBM talks about normal yearly increases. Not only did Ada sit by her husband and murmur platitudes when he worried about the rent, but she did that while snickering ‘You go pay my money, whether you like it or not’ in her heart. I bet you she even encouraged her husband to go without something he really wanted, so that he could pay the rent…to her.
2. For Ada to team up with an agent, and use the agent as a front to collect rent from her husband, is the worst kind of disrespect ever. NOBODY can tell me that the husband was never an object of ridicule behind his back , for paying rent to his wife without his knowledge. How can you love someone, and humiliate them like that, moreso in front of strangers?
3. I don’t care if she bought the house, built it, or inherited it. If she had property, it is her place to tell her husband. It is women like this who make marriage hard for other honest ladies who are willing to give it their all. If you cannot trust your guy, why marry him? especially, why marry him THEN deceive him? Does that make you better or worse than him? Why marry somebody, exchange bodily fluids, tie your life to theirs and make them the parent of your children, share spiritual, emotional, and yes financial ties…and you can’t tell them you have property?
I don’t care how many times Ada may have been hurt – she should value her marriage and her husband, more than she values her bank balance. Period.

ps. everything I just said, would equally apply if the shoe was on the other foot.

second one.

Lailai!!! We are looking at their lives from outside. No one knows what she saw in him that made her decide to do such. For her to have done that for 10yrs could mean all through out their marriage something was up, and she had to make sure they were on leveled grounds without him knowing. Or she didn’t know how to break the truth to him, and in order to keep up the charade, she had to increase the rent according to the market price that way he won’t be suspicious. It happens.
Sometimes, men can be a bit mull-headed about things. Maybe from the beginning, he couldn’t afford a home in VI, and she didn’t to live else where…thus the beginning of the lie (selfish, yup). Or maybe he wanted a home badly in VI and could not afford it, so she concocted a lie to make him happy.
Many men are very uncomfortable when the wife is the wealthier one in the family. Even worse, the owner of the home. So really, if the case were that she did it mainly to keep his pride in check and allow him to be the MAN of the home, then it was a selfless act.

When you think about it from that point of view, the man should be thanking his God. Assuming she wasn’t bugging him for cash, the money he paid yearly for their home would probably go in to feeding allowance, kids clothing, upkeep of their home, and cash to take care of her personal expense. Some don’t realize that once they sum up the total amount of the petty cash that goes out of their pocket every week to maintain their homes, it surpasses the cost that goes in to renting their home.

ok i lied, i have 3. this is the absolute bestest one!

Will October 19, 2011 at 8:06 PM

The reason why he has not built his own house is the same reason why he is living in a rented apartment secretly owned by his wife. The fact that she can conveniently & confidently do this means one thing, she is in absolute control. Further justifying my suspicion that some concoction from the underworld has been involved all along. Look, this case is ver simple! Emeka is married to the devil, whose only mission is to steal, kill & destroy! Only God can deliver him enerstly from this folly, for him to ever make it in life. Sigh*…………………………………WOMAAAAAN!

trust them to involve jazz. gatta love Nollywood effect.

actually there are a lot more. you know what BN consider this PR. yall should click the link

http://www.bellanaija.com/2011/10/19/bn-hot-topic-marriage-financial-wars/

there it is again. incase yall are exactly like me and too lazy to scroll up.

My Opinion.

Emeka should be thankful. Very thankful.