Lent, Silence & everything in between

 First of all, Introduction. Go Down low. Pick your poison.

But first of all. Half way through lent and what a Lent this one has been!!! I was plunged into the most silent season and all that came into my head was forgiveness. And I reached out to a bunch of people who had offended me, and you know what I found out- I WAS AT FAULT TOO. Haha, I guess the lent is transforming me.

My biggest lesson? Is probably not to throw pearls to Swine but more of that later, if I remember. SO much has been happening, I filled a tooth twice and honestly I couldn't be more upset at the treatment I received, Dentists here are basically mechanics in Lagos. unreliable and just trying to get all your benefits money. Mad people.

I also lost my whatsapp number & got it back because the thing about me is that I know how to fight for what I want which is why I am super concerned about my lack of writing during lent. ALmost like haba babes all this free time and what have you done? Me- gotten really good at solitare. LOL.

I grew up playing solitaire non stop on my family computer with my siblings so basically when I came into the silent season I went on reddit to find the windows 97 version, and then because I do nothing by halves, I went and downloaded it on my phone and now- I'm always playing it every single time. I'm obessessed.

I am finding that there is a general push towards restraint as a virtue and it makes me so happy because seeing people with 50 stanley cups that's supposed to be resuable and I'm like did they swear for you people? So I'm hoping that it really sticks and we can doing away with that consumption core situation. After which we should try to lean into developing individual tastes because thats the next phase I want to see, I'm so sick of everyone looking the same. If that makes sense, all of them wearing the same clothes, same shoe, same bag, same perfume even all doing same BBL. Its razz. 

To ME.

Because I know yall love to tussle. 

That being said, I can not believe we are almost in April and the I have not done my nails one time this year. I also havent lifted my kettle bell one time this year as well. SMH for me. Meanwhile randomly last night I dreamt of SB, which is insane because the dream was so hilarious, I had to record it on my phone when I woke up so I could do a deep dive and figure out what it meant but I'm only now remembering, Hopefully I get to it soon.

I am reading a book that I can say is most definitely the best thing I will likely read, asides an offer letter from my new job in 7 figures. Speaking of new job, my office had a meeting and said they were going to give us a 2% salary increase. I was like - IN MY MIND PARDON?. Inflation is 8% what is going on here. LOOOL.

Anyway I went straight to indeed because there is nothing I like more than seeing the writing on the wall. I love my job and the perks are perking but a 2% salary increase is nothing short of disgusting.  And before you say but the economy- I don't care.

It feels like there is so much I don't care about these days, but you have to blame the silence, It's showing me that half the stuff I think are care about or have an opinion about- is mostly stuff from social media that I have assimilated. For example in lent I haven't bought anything at all. I mean tomorrow I am going to a fancy niche perfume store to try out the hibsicus Mahajad perfume to see if I'd like it because all the reddit babes are going GAGA. I mean its a mixed split but since I already have a reputation at work for smelling the best I better get ready to up the ante for summer.

It's been 6 months and I'm yet to figure out my work wardrobe honestly sometimes I wish I could just wear scrubs like a doctor. My husband turned a year older on the 1st of March and my friend came over to make jollof rice for the party. Today for dinner I followed her recipe step by step and omo for the first time in a long time instead of the jollof rice to cook me- I COOKED IT. I was sooooo happy because I even used my almighty pressure pot instead of the gas burner like she suggested. And it was 10/10.

Watch out because we are hosting a Jollof masterclass. The science must be televised. 

Anyway 20 more days to the end of lent and honestly I am praying that God answers all my prayers because there is a long list. 

:)

2026- YAY

 I love a new year. Because I get to set new goals and so on and so forth and the collective consciousness of fresh start and the feeling of being able to do anything and everything just coming off the two weeks of Christmas holidays where all the days blurred and we just ate like thieves and rested.

ANYWAY. I love a new year.

Do I have plans for the year?

Actually yes. I plan to set 4 big goals, and 12 small goals every month and just make plans to get to te finish line.

The housing market in my city is cooling down seriously so this means I might actually BUY a house this year. Audacious goal but 2 years ago I was living in Oniru VI so this is very fascinating. 

Sacrifices will be made but they will be worth it.

And I'm happy to choose this because one thing about life-  a man who procrastinates in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance. And circumstances know how to circumstance.

Before I started writing this post I looked at my bloglist and was like oh my God in 2017 I wrote almost 150 blog posts, I must have been going through it. Turns out in 2017 I was going through my divorce, its so crazy how time passes and truly you do not remember anything. I actually did not remember. 

If someone told me that a time will come when you won't even care I'd have been like will it- anyway it will, it does and you really move on with your life. 

I was writing this and got sucked into creating abi updating my 2026 plan and let me tell you something.

Lots of grand plans this year. I am viciously monitoring my paycheck and looking for another income source.

So HELP ME GOD.

When I also went through my bloglist I saw so many things I wanted to that I have now done, start a book club, travel to asia. move to another country wasn't even on the list.

So funny how one thing that is meh , sets the tone for a change in your life, I did not get promoted once and because of that I moved half way across the world to restart my life and now? I send my manager who did not promote me a Christmas hamper ever year.

You have to be thankful for the people who allow themselves to be used by God, because truly what the enemy meant for evil, he turned around for GOOD.

Wishing you a great 2026!